There is a secret part of me. The one who shines her teeth when people state their future plans for my womb, that immediately thinks to herself, “God forbid!”
But I started seriously thinking about it this year. And so I decided to compile this list. Thank me later.
1. Ain’t nobody gon wake you up (except your alarm clock 😐)-
I love my sleep. I truly do. So the thought of having it interrupted constantly by screaming babies is one that my brain automatically rejects.
2. No food-
Sometimes I hate cooking. The only thing I can stand to
cook make at those times is cereal. But children cannot live on cereal alone and they should not have to. Well except the husband steps in.
PS- Men, the kitchen duties are not for your wife alone. Help out sometimes, would you? Thanks!
Jumpy nerves and noise should not mix. It’s a recipe for accidents of a preventable nature. Children usually equals noise. AS IT SHOULD BE.
4. Proliferation of children-
Adoption is wonderful! A child need not have your DNA to be YOUR child. Having trouble conceiving. 4th time trying IVF? Freaked out by the thought of surrogacy? There are so many children out there. Who need love, security, the chance of a better life. You don’t have to have kids naturally to be a parent. You don’t even have to adopt. You can foster some children. Read stories to them at the orphanage. Take an interest in their lives. Then you’re in a better position to know if you’ll be a great parent. Plus, God already endorsed it!
5. Parents’ Finance-
Repeat after me- BIRTH CONTROL… (Even GOD said people perish for lack of knowledge). Let me expound on this. I do not subscribe to the belief that the guarantee of future care lies in birthing a multitude of children. That encourages human trafficking in fact. How will you train your children? How many children can you train? Answer that. Then discuss with your partner.
6. Children get hurt-
This is for the excessively emotional ones *me included*. Children get hurt and OFTEN. So if you really don’t like hospitals, maybe you should rethink having kids. Something else to consider- if your child has a genetic disease, is born disabled, could you love that child the same? No judgment. Think deeply.
7. Children die-
It’s very important to go into parenthood eyes wide open. Children actually die, of various causes. Doesn’t mean your child will die, but immortality is not guaranteed.
In children of both sexes, the need to be extra watchful arises. You never know who’s who. Can you deal with that? Will you think the child is tainted? Can you handle that situation minimising the damage to the kids?
9. Children’s finance-
Diapers. Clothes. Shoes. Books. Hospital bills. Allowance. School fees. Need I say more?
Children thrive on love. They crave affection. Let’s face facts, some parents cannot give that love. Or keep the balance between love and discipline.
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