Bring on the little ones


This is a follow- up post.

Growing up, it was required reading, this book- The Joys of Motherhood by Buchi Emecheta. I heartily encourage you to read it. No reason, I just wanted to promote that book. It’s awesome.
Compiled below is a list of reasons to have children.

1. Laughter: Children, even the most solemn ones bring laughter into any home. The way they smile, the way they stare at you, the tiny hands reaching for everything, for your face. It’s inimitable.

2. Noise: Although I personally don’t like noise, the absence of it might make homes look and sound sterile.

3. Love: No, children are not the only way to obtain love. But there’s something about the love of babies that is just so pure. So innocent. If you’re lucky, that love may continue till the end of time.

4. Companionship: Well until your little ones discover that they are their own people, you have a mini-me. A shadow if you will.

5. Responsibility: This, I believe, is a matter of choice. Some resent it, but the responsibility of taking care of a life outside yourself who is wholly dependent on you is a strong reason people have children.

6. Bragging Rights: Again, a matter of choice. It saves you stress, questions as to your sanity, and drama with the in-laws. Bonus points if the first word your child speaks relates to you somehow.

7. A reason to read Children books again *whistles*

8. The propagation of your  lineage.

9. Seeing a new side to your parents- Parents change for the better when they become Grandma and Grandpa, or so I’m told.

10. The fulfillment of saying “I had something to do with the making of this little one”.

The follow up post to Toasting Responsibly is out now. View it here.


24 Comments Add yours

  1. rixlibris says:

    A favorite of mine is when, on those rare occasions, they are cranky and are resisting going to bed. Then you watch the change come over them as they surrender to sleep and regain their angelic look.

    1. hrh7 says:

      The little things, like that one are the best parts of guardianship.
      Thanks for the comment!

  2. ennedear says:

    Your post is witty. I loved it. I find that raising kids is tough- I have two. They drive me crazy but all that craziness does not compare to the joy they bring me. Thanks for the post.

    1. hrh7 says:

      Thanks for the compliment. And yes, while children can and quite frequently do bring out the crazy in us, the little things they do, their smile, their eagerness to hold you and make you feel better when you’re upset kind of makes up for the crazy.

  3. My favorite part of being a parent is looking up to the family room window during a snowstorm and feeling my heart melt as the three of them watch dad shovel the snow by himself. 😀

    1. hrh7 says:

      Forgive me. I laughed there.
      Make them help, I think. Look for ways to make it fun. This, I know, is much easier when they’re younger but it’s not impossible now.
      Good luck!

  4. DotedOn says:

    I really hope that the first word of my child is not related to me… (his first word was bitch!!)

    1. hrh7 says:

      I hope so on your behalf.

  5. lbeth1950 says:

    Love this. Thanks for following nutsrrok

    1. hrh7 says:

      Thanks for following inbetweenpeople too.

  6. amommasview says:

    Hugs and kisses! I love their hugs and kisses 🙂

    1. hrh7 says:

      That’s so nice. Me too!

  7. Nedoux says:

    “The Joys of Motherhood” is a great book about a mother’s enduring love, the ending was rather sad. She’d had a difficult life and I was hoping one of her children would take good care of her, it didn’t quite happen.

    1. hrh7 says:

      Yes it was.
      *to the general public* this is not a spoiler!
      Go and read the book!

  8. I read that book long ago, fantastic. Interesting as Buchi Emecheta did not particularly have it easy during her child bearing years, her experiences was detailed in her earlier books In the Ditch, Second Class Citizens etc. I loved her writings, shows lots of resilient amidst challenges of domestic violence and coping with life in a foreign land.

    Point 9. is very true! I can see this in my parents now, both my parents are changing so much for ‘better’ that I am a bit jealous of my nieces and nephews, I guess they both had 60 years to throw away the odd annoying parenting habits now they look like angels to the grandchildren now, well, sometimes!

    1. hrh7 says:

      Wow! You’ve read Second Class Citizens? I’m desperately jealous now. I searched for that book everywhere for a whole year.
      Congratulations on being alive to see your parents changing. And don’t be jealous. Trust God and your time will come too. And then, hopefully, your kids will get jealous too 🙂

      1. Good read that book. Not sure now where my copy is.

        Still available on Amazon:

        Ha, I am jealous because my parents were not that “nice” when I was little. With my dad, you can never miss a day of school, a stream of mucus is not enough to convince him. My mother is a whole different breed… she’d plan for next months chores and recited it to us and me faking headaches never worked. Take Phensic and sleep she’d say followed by chores simple enough to complete sitting down… That woman! To be fair to my mother, all that she did then was for my sisters and I. We called her ‘kerosene’ as she never sleeps 🙂

      2. hrh7 says:

        Thanks for the link.
        About your mom: :). I’m sure your children will amass stories about you too.

      3. Thank you and fingers crossed for me o

      4. hrh7 says:

        I’ll be on my knees. 🙂

  9. Those are all the reasons why I look forward to parenthood. Well, those and the fact that I can buy the most adorable little outfits ever. Great post!

    1. hrh7 says:

      Thanks for the comment. And the compliment.

  10. dbp49 says:

    I always told people my secret weapon when looking after the kids was knowing that kids have 10 times the energy of the average adult, but adults have 10 times the stamina. Those little ones are easy to burn out if your willing to go like like crazy for a while.

    1. hrh7 says:

      Great tip. And I completely agree that we adults have more stamina. Sometimes 🙂

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